Hi Reader,
Death is a part of life that many of us never consider to happen to us. Mostly people who live their entire lives away or close to us seem to have experienced it, so it seems to have happened to them. However, there are many valuable lessons we can learn from death. Always life will change when the end comes to us. Everything changes when someone we care is getting sick or dies. Immediately we start think about the value of life and how little time we all have. My father’s death when I was a little boy, and it completely changed my outlook about a life. In addition, I experienced complete mood swings and mental instability. Because I unable to take decision because I feel happy as well as sad. Because I can’t understand the mind and my body.
In my daily activities, I understand that nothing will ever be the same after that. But despite the grief, loss and emptiness that followed, there was one bright spot. I learned some incredibly wonderful things that we can all learn that will improve our lives. Although a post about death may seem out of place in a career and personal development blog, I decided to offer it because it contains useful information. The opportunity to learn and grow is too great to pass up, even if it may not seem as encouraging as what you read here. By sharing these lessons with you, I hope they will serve as motivation and inspiration for you to take action now and improve your life. Without further ado, let’s take a look at them.
12 Lessons I Learned from lesson in my life after Losing a Loved One.
1. You should forgive yourself:-
After few years later, one of my classmates died in my college days. We sat together on the bus stop and his room, sat in class, talked about everything. We are talked about life and personal problem in our college. I still remember the day I heard about his death and wondering where he was while waiting at the bus stop. It’s a quiet bus ride that I now talk to about trivial matters. I broke the news as soon as I entered the classroom. Nanda Kumar committed suicide and is no longer around now. He was death near our college. It is something I will always remember. When he died, I was filled with regret. I remember the day before all this happened, we were still talking and laughing and I wondered how I could sit next to his every day, talk to his, laugh with his and not know anything.
For a long time I thought I was the worst person on the planet and wondered how I could have missed something wrong, how could I have missed this. You see, I have always been very sensitive to the feelings of those around me. As I write this article, I realize a few things. I make a special effort to engage everyone in conversation and give them a sense of belonging and believe about them. I hate to create a superficial conversations and always choose to probe further to learn more about the person I’m talking to. I began to think about how what happened to my friend might have affected this personal life problem.
I never want to go through that again. Later, another of my friends died, this time by neighbour person who kill him for land problem. He’s one of the funniest and honest person I’ve ever met, and he’s also very charming and happiest person. My mind raced when I heard the news. You can see that he is not happy this time, why again. He has changed over time because of job and with his neighbour person. He has started to behaviour little different. However, I felt bad for not doing more to help him, so I did it again. Everything is started after my father’s death, I feel terrible about all the things I should have said or done but never did. I started to think of myself as the worst person in the world.
Through all of these experiences, I learned the importance of self-forgiveness. You live with guilt every day, and it’s with you all the time. You have to let it go and forgive yourself if you want to move on and find happiness. While your guilt may have nothing to do with the death of a loved one, there are many other things that you may not have forgiven.
In this case, you must act immediately. To protect you. It took me years to get over the guilt of losing my first friend, and it took me months to get over the guilt of losing my second friend. I learned my lesson though. When my friend died, I wrote a note. I make a conscious effort to forgive myself. As for the healing results, I want to thank you for everything.
2. Have mercy/helping on others:-
I’m sure you feel bad about what you did wrong to other people, and I’m sure the other shoe was on the other foot. If you hold onto anger, hatred, resentment, or any other negative emotion, the only person you can hurt is yourself. Holding on to resentment and bitterness will never work. You cling to negative energy that only makes you feel bad and prevents you from getting the good you deserve.
I believe that many of us use a powerful destructive force to prevent our happiness – by holding on to negative energy. Another person has already started working on their tasks. Maybe they forgave themselves a long time ago and lived their best lives. This is why forgiveness is essential. But that’s not all. When you refuse to forgive someone, instead of using your power to forgive, let go, and move on, you allow the other person to control you. So you are about to embrace happiness.
3. Believe in your abilities and work tirelessly to achieve your goals:-
Many of us let our life crush our spirit, stop us from dreaming and believing that we are capable of achieving our goals. Some of us argue that we have simply become more mature and pragmatic. But too often we have refused to be who we should have been, to believe in ourselves and to chase our dreams. Your soul knows who you are. You can feel it deep inside. When you feel energetic and energetic, when you feel alive and sparkling. You are on the right track. What society, our families, friends, or the rest of the world have accepted as “normal” may not be who many of us are meant to be.
Or it’s not “what we expect” as it may be. So we packed our bags. We also tighten the seal. But what we hide is by putting our true selves in a box, denying who we are. When you are faced with death and contemplate your own mortality, one thing is certain. After all, you should take the risk. You start thinking “what if” and “what if”. My father was the kind of guy who chased his dreams. He achieved a lot during his life. As I sat with him in his final days, I couldn’t help but think, “How would I feel if I died now? Would I feel like my life was the way I wanted it to be?” Do I feel like I’ve worked hard enough to get what I want? “.
Do whatever it takes to make your dreams come true. Because you only get one chance to live and enjoy your life. After all, who else but you?
4. Be content now:-
The most important life lesson I’ve learned is to be content with the moment. You know, I’ve always been one of those people who is very focused on the future. Set goals, make plans and track month, quarter and year ends. I know it’s controversial, but death still shocks me. Such a vision of the future has advantages.
One benefit is that it helps you anticipate potential problems before they occur. However, there are many disadvantages. The downside of constantly looking to the future is that it can be difficult to appreciate the present. You risk forgetting to be in the present. Something I’ve done for a long time, and I’m sure many of us do. I did something that I think many of us have done for a long time: I made my happiness dependent on a hypothetical situation.
“I’ll be happy anytime. “.
Any time can mean something. I will be happy when I finish this task.
I will be happy if I get an pass. I would be overjoyed to have all clear.
I will be happy when I lose weight. I will be thrilled when I find my true love.
To continue. The problem is that the list of things you need to do is never ending. There are always other things to do, other things to achieve, and other things to do to improve your life and yourself. There’s no good reason to do this, and that’s the problem.
The truth is, you don’t have to wait until you achieve these goals to be happy. I am happy to report that I finally came to the right conclusion after realizing that the pleasure we seek is in the pursuit and not in the actual object. Infer that doing so might make you feel good. Even if you struggle to achieve your academic goals, keep a positive attitude.
Be satisfied as you become healthier, more active and closer to the ideal body shape you desire. Be happy to meet charming new friends, one of whom may become your true love. Changing your life changes from time to time. Because it shows that you can be satisfied right now. Instead of speculating about future dates that may never come.
5. Don’t think twice:-
If not now, when will it happen? However, it is not only our happiness that is delayed. Many things in your life can be delayed. Some of these activities are likely to be modest. But there may be other important factors. Before we act, we want everything to be perfect, just as we expect happiness when something positive happens.
It could be something like this: “When should I act? “.
“When I travel the world. “.
“When do I start my training program? “.
“When I got a new job. “.
You don’t know what’s around the corner, and that’s the problem. This was a huge challenge for me as I am a planner and a perfectionist. On the other hand, life has a way of teaching you lessons you need to learn. Because there is never a good time to do anything. There is nothing perfect. In fact, there could have been a better time is now. However, the reality is that when we adopt the mentality that something has to happen before we take the actions we seem to want, we are actually living in fear. You put off starting a business until you are no longer afraid, until the economy improves.
Just like you wouldn’t wait until you’re an expert in every imaginable skill to apply for a promotion. Maybe sometimes these sweet moments happen. Although not always. Because of the way life is, there are always things that can disrupt your well-laid plans. After you’ve been laid off, injured, or a family member is sick, it suddenly feels like the right time to finish a task you’ve been putting off. is today’s date. Besides, the best times are behind us. Because that’s how you have to live. As a result, when you catch yourself saying to yourself, “When am I going to do this. You might be thinking, “What am I afraid of? So do it!”
6. Be brave:-
Have you ever had a time when you wanted to do something but were held back by other people’s worries or concerns? Or maybe there is something that you have wanted to do for a long time, but are afraid that it will not work out?
But you can’t seem to get rid of the nagging thoughts that keep popping into your head. No matter how much you ignore it or put it aside. You still want to do it somehow. We are essentially monkey-like creatures. We have a primitive brain that constantly looks for danger and evokes fear. But you can’t live your life in constant fear. Never take the initiative, never take a risk, never act out of fear. It’s because I’ve emphasized the importance of overcoming your fears so much that this point seems eerily similar to point #5.
I realized how brave my father was when I sat with him in his last days and told him all that he had achieved ( I said and he listened because at that time he could not speak). He lived and worked in lorry driver at very young age, breaking his boundaries everytime, confronting opponents head on, breaking barriers. He is brave. Although it is not always that simple. This is what we all need to do: have the courage to act.
7. Be considerate of others:-
Kindness costs nothing, you’ve probably heard it before. It has been used by different people in different contexts over the years. When I spent time with my father in his final days, I was shocked to learn that even the smallest act of kindness can mean so much to someone and make his entire life more bearable. I think it’s because when someone dies and there’s nothing you can do, you find different ways to make them more comfortable. Given the circumstances, this may ease their discomfort.
It has stayed with me. We have the opportunity to improve someone’s life every day, so why wait for someone to die? It doesn’t have to be an expensive or particularly impressive gesture. Maybe something as small as telling a stranger that their clothes look good will make them happy. So please be as kind as possible. As harsh as it may seem on the surface, it also reminds me of how vulnerable we all are. Plus, a little compassion can give you much-needed courage.
8. Never change who you are:-
We all waste time being false to ourselves, and this is one of the most important lessons I learned from the death of a loved one. We spend so much time pretending to be someone else, wishing we could be someone else, or acting and being someone other than ourselves. It shocked me because once it was a matter of life and death, everything else seemed to fade into insignificance.
I wonder why everyone seems to care so much what everyone else thinks. Why do we sometimes struggle to speak up and say what needs to be said? There’s no denying that the only thing that really matters in life is being yourself, being yourself.
It was at that moment that I realized the importance of knowing who you are, what you were meant to do, and letting your light shine (cheesy, I know). If we all do this, I believe amazing and unexpected things will happen. If you just let yourself be who you are, nothing will happen, if you’re too busy being who you think you should be, you’ll never know what connection you’re missing or how deep a relationship you might have or which you think must be someone else. That’s why it’s so important to be yourself.
9. Minor details are not important:-
Countless thoughts run through our brains every day. I’m sure many of them are minor issues. Instead of worrying about something as trivial as how you send your email and how the recipient might receive it, worry about something as trivial as sleeping in bed. This may sound ridiculous, and it is, but if you’re anything like me, you’ve probably bought into this nonsense. Yes, I mean being frustrated and stressed about trivial and unimportant issues. These little problems, annoyances and annoyances make our minds better, more valuable and worth more.
This lesson may seem simple, but if you’ve ever stayed up all night replaying a conversation and wondering what you should say, this one is for you. It’s often the little things that overwhelm us. But all this seems trivial when you consider that you will eventually die. So if it doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things, let it go.
10. Wasted time worrying:-
So don’t worry too much about the details. What is the big picture?
There must be something that deserves attention if not. This may be true.
But when will you worry about the solution? As I sat by my father’s bedside, even great problems seemed no longer to trouble me. Yes, many of them ask me to act, but care and action are not the same thing. It was liberating to see these events through this new lens.
Then I remember nights when I didn’t sleep well because I was worried. During these anxious times, my thoughts try to convince me to come up with a plan, choose a course of action, or take a different course of action. The excitement is just a placeholder because I’m not sure what options, courses of action, or strategies I should pursue. Now I get it.
11. It is impossible to save everyone:-
Positive traits include being kind, helping others, and caring about others. Before his deathbed, my father gave me a piece of advice: “Don’t try to save everyone.” You must know that my father running a company. His whole life, he saw accidents, and death person.
Saving everyone is how he feeds himself. Is he telling me not to follow in his footsteps? Oddly enough, I understood what Dad meant by that. There are two parts to this profound advice. I always do my best to help those around me. This sometimes involves tormenting people until they give up by offering unsolicited advice or trying to live someone else’s life. I used this particular strategy to save everyone. It’s also tiring.
Because at the end of the day, you can’t control people, no matter how much you nag, hang out, teach, or whatever else you do. So even though you think you’re saving your brother from liver disease, your brother from a bad relationship, or your friend from himself, you’re never doing any good.
People have to protect themselves. They can’t save them, and you can’t save people who don’t want to be saved. So offer your help, be there to listen, but also know that each of us has to make sacrifices to protect ourselves.
12. You either use it or you don’t:-
Always a strong man, my father. strong will. Physically and mentally strong.
But things went wrong and when he died, things didn’t go so well for him. It helped me understand the importance of taking advantage of life’s opportunities. You never know what will happen in a moment. You risk losing your mind, getting sick or injured, debilitated and mentally ill.
Nothing really lasts forever. After all, you have to move on. Body, mind and soul. Walk around and keep learning. Nothing stands still, that’s for sure. Everything grows or shrinks, so use it or lose it. I hope you find these lessons useful, learn them, and apply them to improve and enhance your life. I learned from death that life is very precious and we should live it to the fullest.
Conclusion
The death of my father and my friend taught me a some of valuable lesson: to be kind to others and to be forgiving of myself. Even though there never seems to be a good time to experience loss, I’m thankful for the wisdom I gained and the reminder that life is precious. I’m grateful for the time I had with my father and the memories we shared. His death has inspired me to live my life to the fullest and to make the most of every moment.
Keep smiling, because life is a beautiful thing and there’s so much to smile about.
Marilyn Monroe