Hi Readers,
In this blog, I am going to share a information about my Introvert character, and which are the some of things that annoying me or other as an introvert? I done the small research and some of the my personal experience for my blog. Here is what they find mostly annoying for us.
- People complaining about me being an introvert or shy (It happened to me at starting of my career).
- Small talk (My opinion is useless).
- People thinking I’m a rude or selfish person. Because I ask them to leave for time to be alone or time to think about something.
- Someone telling me to speak more or interact with other. If I am starting to speak to them, then talking over me everytime I tried to start it or they move to other people.
- My friend are being forced me to socialize with people, who I think that, “I don’t have much in common with them”.
Is this world for extroverts people?
Most of the people have a common thought that, “In this world where extroversion is considered the key to successful and effective life, and it’s real hard for introverts to find their spot or identity for them. In my early age on school to present job hunting position, you’ll hear the best way to achieve something, you need to create an network. For that you need to attend parties and events for networking.
Additional, most of job descriptions normally require people to be
- Extremely sociable.
- Enjoy the work at spotlight.
- Enjoy working with in a team.
- Enjoy with teammates and teamwork.
So if you feel like an outsider because of this belief, don’t lose hope. There are many others just like us who struggles to share the feelings and go through the same struggles. To prove this and hopefully help you feel better knowing that you’re not alone. And No, this world is not only for extroverts people, because they need us to complete everything.
I hope you are great and insight, just came to me. Your flaws are part of your magic and your scars are part of your growth.
Robin Sharma
Here is few struggles only introvert could relate to,
1. You appear shy when meeting new people or new place:
Most of us can relate to this feeling or pressure to meet a new person or going to new places which you know nothing.
What’s the first impression you meeting a new people?
Are you usually described as shy, whenever you meet new people?
No, Introvert are not shy to meet a new person or going to new places. The truth is, we are quieter than most people, that it automatically makes sense that people would see you as a shy person upon first meeting. The struggles occurs when people assume things about you just because you’re quieter such as you are not being confident enough to do anything or that you’re hiding something or you are not able to do work alone. This might be especially bad on job interviews, since recruiters usually seek people who are competent in their own skills and responsibilities and it will make your first impression is your worst nightmare.
2. You’d rather avoid parties or outings with friends and big social events:
Introvert life is basically designed like feel happy when they are alone. Most of us will feel alone and hopeless during the social event or parties.
Do you ever notice yourself feeling lonelier during parties or social events, that you’re alone with yourself?
Is a wallflower or painting is the only way out or partner for you in entire parties?
While this might sound contradictory, this is a common struggles for introverts. Whenever you go to parties or social events, you’ll feel like there’s a wall separating you from other people because of the amount of small talk with others.
Additional,
1. Small talk will make you feel extremely bored. And
2. Feel like you’re wasting your precious time.
These are two reasons enough why you would rather avoid going to parties or social events.
3. You always feel under- appreciated:
Have you ever felt that people just ignore you in the room just because you’re don’t talk as much as others?
Well, this is one of the most common struggles for introverts. As an introvert, you are usually talk less because you don’t know what to say or don’t have anything to say or don’t have time to respond to them. As a result, people will not know you well, and underestimate your skills and capabilities. So that’s why, even when you’re fit for the job, someone else gets that promotions because of his or her social skills. While you feel like you got skipped.
4. You feel that working in a team is burdensome:
Basically I have good records on my personal performance. When I coming to teamwork, then I feel like they are most talented and most experienced then me. So I simply avoid in joining in discussion or meeting.
Do you feel like group meetings are counterproductive for you?
It is easier to work alone, then co-ordinate in a group?
This is one of the struggles that you can easily related to as introvert. You work much more productively in quite, and private environment. Since focusing on your task is became harder when people talking around you or asked you to do something else. Additional, as opposed to the beliefs that having others around is better for the inspiration, you are more creative and have innovative ideas when you’re alone. And so the fact that companies usually prefer team players over individualists make this a struggle for you and your performance, even if the results and insight you give are better.
5. You feel extremely uncomfortable when you are in the spotlight:
Some basically question, How comfortable do you feel when you being the centre of attention?
While it’s normal to feel extra pressure when being in the spotlight, after all you are being watched by more people than you normally would. As an introvert, you’ll try to avoid speaking in groups or public speaking at all costs because you can’t stand people’s attention being focused on you. You would much rather have a one-on-one conversation. And even then, you prefer to talk about other than yourself. You ever feel uncomfortable talking with acquaintances who you know because they’ll always ask personal questions, which you feel like that information are none of their business.
6. You would rather do everything by yourselves:
In my career, most of time, I try to do work all by myself. Even I don’t have any idea how to do it? or where is the pervious document?.I asking you the same question,
Do you try to asking for assistance?
Have you ever spent so much time trying to do something that could have been easily solved, if you just asked someone to help you?
Is it because you have afear what they would think of you as a result?
As an introvert, one of the traits that you have is that you hate asking for help and the main reason for this is that you’re afraid that you might seem stupid or incapable of doing something. So you end up wasting so much valuable time. Simple because you like to do everything by yourself instead of asking others for help.
Conclusion
It is important to be aware that the struggles that you have to go through daily are most likely struggles that introverts experience everywhere else. So please know that you’re not alone in dealing with these struggles, and start embracing the fact that there are more approaches to life than the extroverted approach. It’s not your fault and no one is blaming you for it. Own yourself and let others appreciate you. I hope I was able to give you insight. I hope I was able to give you insight into some of the ways you might struggles with introversion.
Do any of these describe your experiences?Leave a comment down below about your encounters if you ‘d like. Please feel free to share any thoughts you have as well. If you like this blog, and then share it with those out there battling struggles.