Hi reader,
So today’s blog is going to be quite difficult for me to write because I’m going to mention some politically incorrect stuff(But that makes good for me). I sincerely hope that everyone reads this blog in the correct spirit and with an open mind because it contains extremely useful information. I would have benefited much if someone had shared these lessons with me at the start of my career. The main goal of this blog is for me to demonstrate how making mistakes in life can teach you a lot. And there are three specific errors I’d like you to avoid. If you are young in your job, in your 20s or 30s, this will greatly assist you in learning crucial lessons and using those skills to build a better career and, perhaps, a better life.
1. First Mistake: Not Experiment a lot.
And, first and foremost, the first mistake you should make is to go out and experiment a lot. This may appear to be extremely counterintuitive, and you may ask, “What? I’ve heard that if you jump around in terms of hobbies and interests, it simply shows that you’re a very unfocused person with no goal or target in life. That is not the case. Let me explain that point to you in a very simple way. So allow me to ask you a question. Why do you believe that nearly 90% of Indians are undecided about their careers? Please take a moment to respond.
What is the real reason for this? The answer is that we do not experiment with our careers at the appropriate age. Consider this. You will go to the market and try to buy all the ten shoes you saw, answer is simply no. Similarly, if you are a working professional who works from home, if you go to buy a chair, you will sit on different sets of chairs and figure out which one is the most comfortable, and you will most likely end up purchasing that one.
So, from that standpoint, when you buy shoes by experimenting, and when you buy chairs by experimenting. Similarly, if you want to find clarity in your career, you must experiment. What does this imply? So the word of caution is that you must conduct this experiment in your early life now in order for me to tell you about my own experiences. So, when I was around 21 years old, I told my mother that I wanted to avoid my job offer in the banking department. I have a good-paying job offer, but I do not to join there instead of that I need to work full-time in the service industry.
My mother was very concerned. What will happen next if you do not accept this offer? Of course, that was a very worrying situation for my mother, but I did not suddenly decide to try something different in my life. I’ve done a lot of experimenting up to this point. For example, I began playing football when I was 14 years old. Then I dabbled in a variety of professions. For example, I worked in a Production division. I worked for a nonprofit and then for a corporation. Then I worked in commissioning and attempted to enter a business school but was turned down. So far, I’ve conducted a number of experiments in my career and life.
And at some point, I realise, hey, I’ve tried all these different things, and this is where my heart lies, that I want to build a businesses or focus on that career. This is something I would like to continue doing in my career, and it is what I intend to do. And this is precisely what I continue to pursue in various business formats. So the point is that running these various experiments enabled me to gain more clarity in my life. And, to answer the central question I posed earlier, why are the majority of people confused about their career? One reason is that they do not experiment.
And the second is that by the time they decide to experiment, it is probably too late. For example, many of us struggle to begin our entrepreneurial or other career journeys because we try to start when we are at a certain point. And it becomes a more difficult proposition or experiment to handle because you have a lot more responsibilities at that point, and the cost of failure is very high up until that point. So, if you are young, in your early twenties, please go experiment. Join your college club, for example. This is crucial. Take on some leadership roles.
If you want to start a business, simply create a basic website and try to direct traffic to it. If you can do that, you will be able to learn more about how to build digital businesses. And you might get really good at building those kinds of businesses someday. There is absolutely nothing wrong with over-experimenting with your career when you are young. You should try it because you will make mistakes. And from those mistakes, you will learn a lot of lessons, gain a lot of clarity, and this will greatly benefit your career.
2. The second Mistake is failing to strike a work-life balance.
The second major mistake, you should avoid is killing your work – personal life balance at the start of your career. I’m saying something extremely controversial, and I’m expecting a lot of backlash for it. But please listen to my arguments. Now, if you go on LinkedIn or Twitter, you will see all of these huge CEOs. They will discuss it. You are aware of what you should prefer, such as work- personal life balance. You should also discover your passion. This. That’s all wonderful. I have nothing against it. But here’s the catch.
People from the middle class, for example, I am from the middle class. My parents spent their entire working lives working for others. And one thing I hope we can all agree on is that if you are from the middle class, you have no support. It’s not as if people will throw their support behind you when you’re just starting out. You simply must fight and forge your own path. There is absolutely no doubt about it. The vast majority of middle-class people must endure this ordeal. So, essentially, when you begin your career, you are a doormat and will be assigned the most dreadful work available.and the most labor-intensive work available. And you will, unfortunately, have to do it. There is absolutely no doubt about it. Why? Because you don’t have any support. You have no one to lean on, so you must persevere. This is a simple fact of life. Let me now dissect the concept of hard work step by step. And how does it assist you? So the first thing that hard work allows you to do, especially if you’re doing it early in your career, is compound your skills. This is a critical concept. So let me explain with a simple example.
For example, if you learn stock market investing at 40, when will you going to make the most money or If you learn stock market investing at 20, when will you make the most money. Who will make more money? The answer is that you would have made more money if you had learned stock market investing when you were 20.
Why? Because you have more time, don’t you? If you start investing at the age of 20, you will most likely invest in the stock market for the next 50 years. So there is a skill compounding the stock market skills that you practised when you were 20. It allowed you to benefit for 50, 60 years of your life; however, if you start learning about stock market investing when you’re 40 or 50, it will most likely only help you for a few years.
That holds true for every single skill you learn in life. The more skills you learn in your early years, the more advantage you will have. Because of the compounding skill concept, your skills are compounded, allowing you to make a lot of money, advance in your career, and live a more fulfilling life. As a result, you must sacrifice your work-personal life balance and work extremely hard in the early stages of your career.
The energy theory now backs this up. So, when you’re younger, you have a lot of energy; when you’re 35, 40, or 50, your energy levels will decrease, your responsibilities will increase, you’ll have family, you’ll have kids, and a bunch of other things. As a result, it becomes more difficult to devote that energy to your career. As a result of this energy theory, you must ensure that in the early stages of your career, you are taking every single second and working extra hard in order to grow quickly.
Some asked me that, “I’m already 35,40 and I haven’t done any of these things. Is my fate sealed?” Please understand that this is not a race. Without a doubt, you must develop at your own pace. This is now aimed at a wide range of people. The most important point to take away from my arguments is that this should not be viewed as a race, but rather as a journey of self-improvement.
Now, I’d like to quickly address the third related point. It’s known as the Winning Asset theory. So, if you work really hard in the early stages of your life and can demonstrate that you are a winning asset. There are hundreds of ways to demonstrate this.
Some people, for example, are admitted to very good business schools. That’s an indication that you could be a valuable asset. Similarly, if you are one of your company’s top performers, it is an indication that you are a winning asset. Similarly, if you get a very high GMAT score, it indicates that you could be a valuable asset. So, the sooner you demonstrate that you are a valuable asset, the more opportunities will become available to you. So it’s not a bad idea to kill that work-life balance in the early stages of your life, work really hard, get to a certain point, and then start exhibiting that work-life balance.
At the start of my career, I needed to work more than 12 hours a day to see results. Now that I’ve reached a point in my life where it may appear that I’m doing a lot of things, I don’t necessarily need to work for 12 hours a day. I can easily work for 8 hours a day and be fine. As a result, when I reach the age of 40 or 45, I will reduce my working hours even more. Now, I’m not saying this to brag; all I’m saying is that your career exists in a flow method. It’s not as if you should start looking for work-life balance on day one and start putting that theory into practise.
There will be changes, volcanoes erupting in your career, and you must adapt. So, without elaborating, the simple argument here is that working really, really hard in the early stages of your career will simplify your life. And as your skills grow, you’ll be able to outsource a lot of that work and achieve more work-life balance in your life.
3. Third mistake is Not saying No.
The third mistake is that you must learn to say no, and you must say no to people. This may seem counterintuitive because you may be thinking,that I just started my job and if I say no to my boss, he will probably fire me. Similarly, if I say no to a friend, my friends or colleagues will end their friendship with me, and I will be alone for the rest of my life. Please don’t believe all of this because it can lead to you becoming a pushover a lot of the time, which was a problem in my career as well.
And there is a thread on Twitter that I read (Threat made by Akshat). I strongly advise you to read it in order to understand all of the techniques for saying no. But here’s the important message and point: if you don’t develop the courage to say no to people, you’ll end up with a lot of useless work and will continue to fulfil those obligations. Only that, hey, today I’m assisting a friend, tomorrow I’m taking on extra work from my boss for which I won’t even be paid. I’m just being nice to people, and no one is helping me, so I’m not having any success.
What causes this? Or Just because of the fact? Because many times people are just super nice, and they end up spending 80, 90 percent of their energy doing useless pieces of work that don’t help you at all and just sidetrack your career. You simply become a nice person who becomes a pushover, and your career suffers as a result. So, don’t be a nice person. It’s fine to assist others, but recognise when you’re being taken advantage of. Now you’ll notice that you’re asking us to be rebellious, but we’re just starting out. So, should I just say no to everyone and everything? No. Be logical. Be rational.
And here’s a simple rule I’ll give you. Please comprehend the value addition principle. For example, if you are starting a job or if you are already working and your boss expects you to do these five things, do it. Do it exceptionally well. Do it flawlessly. Make yourself a valuable asset to your company. If you are being assigned unnecessary, useless work, go to your boss and say, “I can assure you that it will not be a problem,” but be diplomatic.
That is not the case right now. Simply state that your boss has requested that you take on this additional work. Also, don’t just say no, I’m not doing whatever you want. You cannot be rude, but you must remind your boss that I have completed these pieces of work and have worked extremely hard. This is my feedback, and I’m already overworked on these specific things, so I won’t be able to take on such projects. You’ll be fine if you just say that. So try to be diplomatic. So, two points. First and foremost, please work on the value addition principle so that you can become an important asset to your organisation by performing your core duties exceptionally well. And number two, and be diplomatic in terms of saying no.
4. The final mistake is being self-obsessed.
The final mistake you can make is to become self-obsessed. Many times, you will hear people say that you are self-obsessed. It’s not necessarily a bad thing. Because there are so many distractions nowadays, become obsessed with yourself. When I go speak with different college students, I hear them worry about things over which they have no control. People, for example, are constantly discussing politics.
They will continue to discuss politics. That person X did it, and that person Y did it. This thing came, and then that thing came. They will continue to debate topics such as cinema, Bollywood, and the types of advertisements. How does the fact that Bollywood celebrities are doing this affect you? Right? No, it does not. So, instead of gossiping, concentrate on the things you can control. When you remove all of these distractions, you will be able to become laser focused on the first three points I discussed, allowing you to ease your career.
Bouns: Failure to Purchase Health and Life Insurance
One of my critical mistakes in life was not purchasing health and life insurance early in my friend life, for which I am still paying a high price. Please do not make that mistake. There are specific, useful mistakes you should make to gain experience, but you should avoid purchasing insurance too soon.
Conclusion
Mistakes are a necessary part of life as a human being. It’s how we learn and grow! And if we never made any mistakes, we’d be boring people who never tried new things. Mistakes can actually be fun—they lead to new opportunities and help us try out different paths in the world that we otherwise wouldn’t have taken
And Most important part of mistakes is journey to becoming an adult. They help us learn and become better people. They provide opportunities to learn new things and improve ourselves. They remind us of our strengths and our weaknesses.
When you make mistakes, they are not always bad. In fact, they often help us learn and improve. As such, the better we can tolerate mistakes, the better we can learn and the better our lives can get.
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